I need your advice. I went out with this girl for the first time nine days ago. I thought our date went really well. We went out to dinner. I thought we really connected. We talked about lots of things. We both talked about our past relationships. I thought it was all really good. The only thing that made it weird for a second, was that I found out she is a lot younger than me. Even after that, everything still seemed good. I had a great time and she said that she did too. At the end of the night, we hugged and kissed and she told me to give her a call. The next day, I waited until the end of the day and I called her. I got her voicemail. I left her a message. I remembered her saying that she had finals so I figured she was busy. Two days go by, I still don't hear from her. I decide to text her. I just wanted to say hello and let her know what a good time I had. She finally responded with a smiley face. The three more days go by, nothing from her at all. I decided to text her before I meet my friends out to invite her to join us. She didn't respond at all. I just don't understand? She said she had a good time. She said to call her and that she wanted to go out again. I thought we had a lot of fun. What should I do now?
-First Date Wonder
Dear First Date Wonder,
Stop calling, texting, or whatever else that you are doing! Stop it NOW! I'm sure the date was fine. Here's the thing, women are not that hard to figure out! If we like you, we will respond to you. When we really like a guy, no matter how busy we are, we will always respond back. Even if it ends up being hours later, it's still within that 24hr range. There is no mystery here. First dates are great. It's really exciting when you meet someone new and you feel like you are connecting. Remember, you don't know that person. There have been plenty of times where I have said "Yeah, I had a great time (god, just let me get to my car) Sure, you can call me!" I think that maybe you had some expectations about where this was going after the first date because you thought is was going so great. I think you moved too quick. You should have waited before you called her. After you called her, you put the ball in her court. She didn't do anything so you text her (which you shouldn't have done after she didn't respond to you). She gives you a lame-ass smiley face and then you decide to text her again, days later? You came on too strong. You say she is younger than you? Maybe she caught the vibe that you were too eager to settle down? Either way, STOP WITH THE TEXTS AND CALLS! It was one date! Darling, she's just not that into you. Just move on and don't look back.
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