Dear Atomic Bombshell,
My girlfriend and I, moved in together about five months ago. It's been a huge transition for both of us. There aren't too many private moments left for either of us. One of the things that we fight about almost everyday is how much I masturbate. It doesn't interfere with our sex life. I just like doing it sometimes at night before bed and maybe in the morning when I wake up. She is really pissed off and she acts like I'm cheating on her. Then she wants to know if it's because I'm tired of her or if I'm thinking about other girls. I mean, yeah, sometimes I'm thinking about other girls but not chicks that I know. She has been really nagging me to death about why I do it and she wants me to stop. I don't see what's wrong with it. I love her, we are living together now and we have sex pretty often. Maybe you can tell me what you think or why she is acting like I'm cheating on her?
I once knew a guy who masturbated about 5 times a day, was hooked on internet porn and wouldn't have sex with his girlfriend! With that being said, your problem, isn't a problem at all. I don't think that there is anything wrong with masturbation. Your girlfriend needs to chill. It's not cheating, it's yours! I could see if there was no sex between you and your girlfriend and you sat on the couch, watching porn and banging them out all day. That is clearly not the issue here. She seems like she might be a bit insecure. So you are doing it about once a day, BIG DEAL! Ask her why it's so upsetting to her. Does she find it dirty, does it make her feel less attractive or is she afraid that you won't want to be with her anymore. Really try and get to the root of the situation and talk it out. Reassure her that it isn't some crazy perverted ritual and you're not turning into a freak! It's really normal for all guys, even married ones! Keep me posted on how the discussion goes. Thanks for writing.
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